Building Your Online Profile: The first installment in a series about online dating
By: Adrian Drower, Ask Adrian Blogger and No Boundaries Participant
Most movies and TV shows make finding a love life relatively easy, but we all know that it is not always the case. Most of the good things in life are never easy, but they are rewarding. It is actually just like Robert Frost’s poem, The Road Not Taken. When it comes to finding a love life, I am similar to those who are not as fortunate. For me, I’m trying the path less traveled and I’m hoping you will too.
Several years ago, a friend suggested I try online dating, but I kept putting off the idea. As a way to honor her memory, I eventually gave it a try. The way I look at it is that I have cast my fishing line into the ocean, and now I wait. Now I want to share some tips that I think you might find useful if you decide you want to try an online dating service.
The first thing you need to do is research the different sites to see which one is right for you. Once you decide which site is right, then fill out your profile. Keep in mind the following tips:
- Create a good profile; the profile should show your positive qualities without sounding like you are bragging.
- Post 3 – 6 current pictures of yourself; action shots are best. If posting group photos, get permission from the people in the picture before posting.
- Fill out as many of the sections in the profile section as you can. This helps others see who you are.
- Use lists to share facts about yourself and to give details about your interests, hobbies, and how you spend your leisure time.
- Be yourself. Be honest. Share what you’re thankful for.
- Open up about your passion or devotion to something and show that you’re emotionally available for dating and that your personal values are firmly intact.
- Make it clear what kind of relationship you are looking for, the most essential quality you seek in a person, and what type of person you want to attract.
- Don’t be afraid of romance; be charming.
- Use a little light humor.
- Be careful, don’t say too much. Leave people wanting to discover more about you (like a cliffhanger to a TV show or movie).
- Identify yourself with your first name only.
- Stay away from the third person (use “I” when referring to yourself).
- Before you save the profile, check grammar, spelling, and punctuation.
- Update profile regularly.
Now that you have the profile, who knows what could happen in the future…